Little Ladies

My friend from school, Adi, full name Fadzillah is the one who gave me the name Fish. For the simple reason that I like to eat fish. If she asks me what am I eating, it is always fish, so Fish I am to her. She encouraged me to write and use that name, hence came about this humble blog of mine.

She requested I write about life with my girls. Are you sure, Adi? We are not  the Gilmore Girls you know. We are mother and daughters in the real world of ups and downs, more down than up. You might fall asleep of boredom or have to bear reading about the difficulties.  I remember a book that I read when I was young called  Little Women by Louisa May Alcott.  Maybe I will call this segment, Little Ladies by Nor Fish Ismail. Only that they are no longer little, they are all taller than me.

                                                    Little Ladies

When the girls were young, driving them to school was  important to me.  I look forward to that particular time because that is the only way they cannot escape my lectures.  They are not going to jump out of the car when I go nag nag nag nag.   I will switch on something islamic or Quran recitation to realign their wavelength. No rock and roll  before  their studying.  No good. The Quran is light, lets get some light in their heads....

I was very involved in their studies.  More because I regretted not studying harder in school.  I am sure they were irritated by their mum who looks upon their homework like a person who had found some lost treasure or something. I go like, Waaahhh!!!! Homework!!!! I made sure they have enough pencils, erasers, sharpeners because being equipped with stationary makes a smoother study, without having to sprint everywhere in class to borrow from classmates. Its a student's tools. Like a carpenter and his tools.

I was taught very hard (not  just drummed into me, but hammered into me)  that food is very important by my ex-mother in law.(one of the best cooks in the world)  "Do not let your children salivate looking at other people's food." And since I grew up doing just that towards other people's food, because food is not 'that important' in our house,  I made sure that the girls always have enough to eat.  I did not cook that well, but I know what the girls like, and cooked the way they like, so much so that Aishah could not eat the food in Kuching because their omellete taste different from mine.

to be continued.....

                                       

Can you tell who is who here?

Feeling blue

How often does one feel blue?  If too often, means you might be down with depression.  Am I getting bouts of depression? I don't know, but I don't think so.  I know why I am feeling down but it is too private to tell. 

Shushu and Giogio always cheer me . Adi's habit of bugging me 4 times a day also cheers me up. But am still blue. I am supposed to go to jb to collect somethings and I wish this cloud will move away.

I wonder what can make me feel better? Any ideas anyone? Can someone tell me a joke? Or say some magic words?  What is it that I can do to make it go away? Eat ice-cream? If I show baskin robbins something pink on Wednesday I can get two scoops.
Shall I get a book by my fav author, Adibah Amin or Yan Martel? Shall I go to the hair saloon? Watch Korean movie?

May Allah accept what I am doing. May He help me to handle this after effects. Lahaulawalakuwataillabillah.

The man with a book

In my dreams, my ideal man reads. The men in my real life do not read, so the gap was always there.

Yesterday I saw a man with a book at the train station.  He looks like an ideal man. I asked him "what are you reading"? It was something of something. I was nervous, you see.

Finally I gave him my book with my blog add, which might be to him is  'child's work', since my blog is a simple blog.

I hope man with a book notes what is written on the bookmark. I hope he would finish reading the lovely malay book about the human spirit in the children.

Pesanan dari Ustazah Zaidah Darul Syifa'

Untuk di amalkan setiap hari

1.  Selalu beristighfar

2.  Membaca ayat kursi sebanyak 33 kali sehari. Untuk mereka  yang tidak biasa membacanya, baca 3 dahulu and tambah perlahan-lahan.

3.  Baca Al Waqiah sebelum tidur untuk memudahkan rezeki

4. Baca Subhanallah, Walhamdulillah, Lailahaillallah wallahuakbar 100x sehari supaya diberi kekuatan oleh Allah.

5.  Sentiasa berdoa pada Allah, supaya Allah memberi penyembuhan kerana penyembuhan itu pada kuasa Allah semata-mata.

6.  Baca Alamnasyroh untuk menenangkan hati yang risau.

7. Amalkan sembahyang sunat dhuha.

Syukur Alhamdulilah, walaupun kami tidak dapat berjumpa dengan Ustaz Harun Din sendiri kerana beliau di Mekah, (walaupun kami pergi untuk mendapatkan nombor pada pukul 3 pagi!) kami bersyukur Allah temukan kami dengan Ustazah yang telah bersusah payah merawat kami.  She was so caring dan motherly, masa dia pegang kepala dan menepuk dan melurut dada saya dengan bacaan AlQuran, rasa nak peluk-peluk dia...

Menyahtoxinkan badan kita

Menyahtoksinkan (betulke perkataan ni?) patut dicuba sehari pada hujung-hujung minggu  untuk menghilangkan toksin yang terkumpul dari permakanan dan carahidup masakini


Untuk sehari (caranya)

Diwaktu pagi
* mulakan dengan segelas air dan hirisan lemon
*Makan sekeping roti berserat
*30 minit senaman bertenaga seperti berjalan laju
*minum smoothie - buah atau sayuran yang dikisar
*berus kering kulit dengan berus rambut sebelum mandi untuk menghilangkan sel-sel 
  mati
*minum 2 gelas air untuk keluarkan toxin
*mandi menggunakan minyak beraroma
*basuh rambut
*bersenam atau workout atau kemaskan almari dan laci2 dapur.
*minum  segelas air lagi

Lewat pagi
*Minum segelas air

Tengahari
*segelas air
*makanan kamu suka yang sihat seperti salad, buah, kekacang

Lewat tengahari
* satu gelas air dengan hirisan lemon
*sejam riadah yang relakskan badan seperti taichi
*sebiji apple atau celery
*muhasabah diri dan hidup kita selama satu jam
*buat sup sayur dan makan dgn roti berserat

Awal petang
*segelas air
*20 minit skipping
*2o minit senaman regangkan anggota

Malam
*segelas air
*basuh muka dan mandi
*pastikan tiada apa yang boleh mengganggu tidur.
*Tidur awal
Saya belum cuba jadual ini lagi, tetapi selalu kisar air buah-buahan dan sayuran sebagai permulaan. Akan cuba esok lusa.....

Yang paling penting untuk kesihatan.

Tahu tak apa yang paling penting untuk menjaga kesihatan? Will power.

Kita telah baca beribu buku dan majalah dan mendengar berjuta nasihat supaya bersenam, kurangkan garam, gula dan lemak, lebihkan buahan dan sayuran segar, minum air yang cukup, tidur  yang cukup, jaga berat badan, tetapi, semuanya di amalkan secara hangat2 tahi ayam.

Badan kita ini berfungsi dengan terbaik, apabila diberi bahan permakanan yang terbaik dan cara hidup yang terbaik. Banyak mengikuti pantang larang kesihatan, fizikal and mental. Mungkin sehari dua ini saya rasakan ada penurunan pada tahap kesihatan saya, sebab itu saya menjadi takut.

Jadi, saya mesti ada will power untuk memperbaiki diri dan amalan harian supaya kesihatan tidak terus merosot. Tetapi sebaik-baiknya, mulalah dari muda lagi,  supaya terus maintain walaupun umur meningkat. Okay, start again....

Dr ctmm

Semalam saya ke hospital disebabkan sakit di bahu dan lengan.  Dr cantik tapi muka masam (dr ctmm)  kata, 'frozen shoulder, dah tak boleh buat ape-ape'.( Okay....?!) Saya di beri temujanji dua bulan lagi juga di suruh habiskan ubat yang ada. Saya minta untuk membuat 'blood test' , dr ctmm kata ' tak perlu'. Saya pun terangkan  sudah lama saya tak periksa kolestrol dan badan dan kepala selalu terasa berat . Dr ctmm pun tulis slip blood test untuk di buat seminggu sebelum temujanji 2 bulan lagi. Saya yang dah lama rasa tak begitu cergas dan belum makan apa2 (puasa untuk ambil darah) beri cadangan,  'buat hari  ni boleh?' 'Suka hati,' kata dr ctmm acuh tak acuh.

Kadang-kadang saya rasa orang yang bersikap direct and straight to the point seperti Dr ctmm sangat-sangat  intelligent, sehinggakan mereka mampu untuk 'be so direct', tak payah lagi 'waste time choosing the correct words' bila berdepan dengan 'seorang lagi' pesakit. 
Tetapi....bila kita berjumpa pula seorang doktor yang ambil berat perasaan orang lain dan usaha lebih sikit demi menjaga hati, walaupun sudah 'sampai telinga' dengan penyakit dan pesakit, maka kita boleh buat perbandingan, siapa yang ada 'the touch' and siapa yang 'just a doctor'.

So, when a patient comes to you all sick and broken, you are supposed to mend them, with your skills and your words. If you cannot find the right words, just smile and bear it sebab seorang pesakit itu selalunya sakit. Kalau tidak, masakan di panggil pesakit. Mestilah di panggil pesihat.